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  Elders manual-WTF?

  by lostsheep82 in

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  Coffee House Girl

  WTF- best acronym ever! and best describes a manual to kick people out and destroy families :)

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  Woman I work with just asked me, "if you fall in love and get married, do you have to marry a JW?"

  by miseryloveselders in

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  you wanna talk about a section in the office floor becoming as quiet as a vacant building in the middle of nowhere.

  so she put her hand on her chin and said in more words or less, "if you fall in love, and get married, do you have to marry a jw?

  i couldn't imagine people looking at me poorly because i didn't marry a jw!

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  Yea, I have been asked those questions & I hated telling the honest answers- (the shocked WTF looks in return to my answers)- It was even more awkward after my divorce....all my coworkers knew that I was married to a JW & he left me and disappeared. When I divorced for "financial reasons"- they couldn't wrap their heads around the fact that I could not remarry. I was 25, and not unattractive...I got offers all the time & they couldn't understand why I had to turn them all down. They couldn't understand why a nice JW then couldn't ask me out (I was not scripturally free, thus brothers wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole).

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  When Was The Last Time You Said A Prayer?

  by minimus in

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  do you ever pray?.

  have you felt, "what the heck?

  it's worth a shot"?.

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  I pray every day, but with the "what the heck, I will give it a try" attitude- I am in hopes that it reinforces giving me a positive attitude toward those who shun me and are enslaved to the Borg

  cantleave & nugget- I'm surprised to hear that I am not the only one who went years without praying to Jeh while in the Borg. (I did that off and on in my 20's) And yes, I spent many nights falling asleep while in the middle of a prayer & feeling terrible and guilty about it.

  In my last three years before I left, I was praying to Jeh to die- I didn't want to be around one more day & I was so dissappointed to wake up everyday with my prayer unanswered and trapped in this hellhole- it is liberating not to think those things anymore...but I do not think it was God, it was by my own choice to change my life...

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  As a JW, what did you do on Christmas Day?

  by Magwitch in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  growing up a jw, we always had family from out of town visit or we would go visit family.

  it was fun to get together with my other jw cousins over christmas.

  (however, it was hell going back to school in january as the only girl without a new sweater).. as a married jw though it was a different story.

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  I usually went to the movies on x-mas day, I do remember a few times going out in service- but I whinned big time and my mom relented thankfully (I think she hated it as much as me). I feel for those who did go out on holiday mornings- I never got a good response, usually the "how dare you" stare, the householders I am sure wanted to say "get the f*** off my porch"- but being christmas and all...

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  I celebrated my birthday today for the first time!

  by doublelife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i didn't really have a party or anything, but people at work know that i'm no longer a jw and they got me a birthday cake.

  my birthday is not until the 28th, but my co-workers always celebrate anyone's b-day on the 3rd wednesday of every month.

  i've been giddy all day over it, though every once in a while, i'll remember how disappointed in me my parents would be.

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  Awwww Happy Birthday DL! It feels nice to say it to others too - I am a newbe BD celebrator too & I love to be enthusiastic about sharing someone else's special day (and it felt good too to have people acknowledge mine- nothing pagan feeling about it!)

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  Good apostate

  by phoebed in

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  guys, i have a little time and i wanted some advice.

  i really like to be "good" and "super good" in everything i ever do.

  i am kinda "perfectionist".

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  I am very interested in your blog, as a former women in the watchtower society....let us know if you get it back up on the net! I want to visit it and be a good apostate too!!!

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  Why did "Back Calls" change to "Return Visits"?

  by donuthole in

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  does anyone remember the rationale that was used in rebranding "back calls" as "return visits"?.

  while on the subject does anyone else remember any theocratic name changes like,.

  district assembly to district convention.

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  factfinder,

  my mom ordered the black "back calls" book from a company called "stoops"- they were a mail order company, I also had a tiny tot bookbag (pink), it is possible the company became "manzay" later, they have all those stupid callendars with theocratic ministry school schedules in them-

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  It's Really Just a Social Club

  by Eiben Scrood in

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  at least for many..... i remember looking around at meetings and so many in the audience seemed to be in another world.

  people would get up and talk at the back shamelessly.

  meetings were a good opportunity to make plans with friends.

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  Good Thread

  I was not in the "in" crowd or a part of cliques in the cong. but in my teens I could see the ones who were going out and getting wasted, dating, having sex, and they were getting away with it and viewed as spritually "exemplary" because they went out in service and were good at commenting or giving talks-

  it made me feel more depressed and frustrated that I couldn't find any friends in the Borg (I wasn't really intersted in getting drunk and partying- and the other kids in the cong. that didn't fit in like me were boring and I had nothing in common with them)& I wasn't allowed to have any friends outside.

  So glad I am now away from that type of social system (trap), but I find outside social functions so difficult now....it will take much time and effort to be able to relate to others and enjoy a party or join a fun club. Getting involved with another religious organization for social reasons just makes me nauseated right now.

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  Story of pheobe- part 1

  by phoebed in

  1. forum
  2. tech-support

  hello friends,.

  i promised to you that i shall return with my story, so while i cant write too much today, it will be a part 1, ok?.

  first of all, i am definately not attracted to paganism and i know for a fact that jesus is lord.

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  accidently read in wrong order- but Welcome & Thanks for sharing

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  phoebed story - part 2

  by phoebed in

  1. social
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  okay guys, i have a little time on my hand ( a little).. as i was going through public school, the persecutions and ostracism remained.

  it was a very difficult thing to be a jw kid in comunism.

  parents could not "homeschool" like in us, which i am sure my mother would have done if she could.

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  Aw man, I was hooked on your story... please post asap! thanks for sharing

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